"I paid her for a maiden, and you gave her to me dishonored."

"There was a case in Drenovets, a woman sold her 8-year-old daughter in Sofia. When the boy's parents came to pick her up, she started crying for the swing because she was swinging in the yard.

They unhooked the swing and took it with the girl and took her to Sofia, "said 43-year-old Roza from the village of Asparuhovo. She is a mother of 4 children and grandmother of a 5-year-old granddaughter. In her village, like many other places in Bulgaria, child marriages are a tradition. If the girl is not married at the age of 12-13, she is already old and "no one is going to marry her", and the honor of the family is checked with virgin blood.

According to the tradition, the father-in-law and the mother-in-law choose the bride and usually have no pretensions about what she should be. They take girls very young because they want to raise them by their own character, to raise and teach them as their own children. Today, the price of a daughter-in-law varies between BGN 15,000 and 20,000, but there are also conditions under which the money has to be returned.

Who is making the decisions?

If the daughter-in-law has stayed for 2-3 years, but she does not like the new home, she has problems with her mother-in-law or her husband, "she hits her road and leaves" and then a Roma meshere is made (council / court within the community). It occupies neither side. Five men take part in the meshere and they decide who should pay whom and how much and whether the family should stay together. Most often, under such conditions, half of the amount is returned by the girl's family, as she still stayed and worked in someone else's house. If the fault lies with the daughter-in-law, that is, she has found a "boyfriend" and her husband founds out, then his family returns her and she "is beaten as much as all people in the world – both dead and alive." The Roma meshere forces the mother and the father on the part of the girl to return the money to the penny, because the fault lies with their daughter. "We do not go to the Bulgarian court, we have 5 men who we call meshere to whom we pay. They are our court, "says Rosa.

"My first cousin was sold in Serbia when she was 12 years old. I stayed there for 2-3 years and then escaped and returned to Bulgaria. There she was taught to lie, to steal, to go to other countries - to Germany, France. They had paid a lot of money for her. By paying money, they do whatever they want with you. At the age of 17-18, the bride can now has an opinion and if she says "No, I'm not going to steal", her husband will tell her: "I gave money for you and you have to make it for me", adds Rosa, who is also a representative of this minority. However, she didn’t let anyone to pay for her and she says that she married her husband, because they both chose each other. She didn’t have to prove her honor to anyone, but there are other girls who are not so lucky.

"For us, honor is a very big thing. Being honest and playing with the shirt is a kind of grace. The whole village praises the mother and father for "guarding" their daughter.

The custom is that on the wedding day, when the newlyweds go to bed, their families line up under the window and wait to hear a scream. Then the groom shows the shirt - a white sheet or other type of white cloth, on which the old men immediately throw rakia (a typical Bulgarian traditional alkohol). Rosa explains that if the girl was a virgin, the blood on the sheet looks like a "freshly blossomed May rose," but if it darkens, it means it's from a finger or a vein. Then the groom's family says, "I paid her for a maid and you gave her to me dishonored," and half the money is returned to the groom’s family.

Rosa also says that at every wedding, when the boy's family goes to look for the bride, every girl says she doesn't want to get married, but when she starts to live with her husband, she starts saying "I wanted, I still want! "She gets used to him, she loves him, because he is her first one."

How much the childhood costs?

According to the report of the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) "Against My Will - Defying The Practices That Harm Women And Girls And Undermine Equality" in Bulgaria there are no official statistics on the annual number of child marriages that take place in our country. But from this and other stories that you will see in the film prepared for the project, it is clear that their number is not small.

Child marriages are almost universally banned, yet they happen 33,000 times a day, every day, all around the world. An estimated 650 million girls and women alive today were married as children, and by 2030, another 150 million girls under the age of 18 will be married.

The World Bank found that in just 12 countries where child marriage is prevalent, the loss of human capital would amount to $63 billion between 2017 and 2030, much more than these countries received in official development assistance.

The cessation of this practice is important not only for the communities where it is applied, but also for the well-being of the society as a whole.


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[1] Balika Vadhu (English: Child Bride) (International Title: Young Love) is an Indian soap opera that aired on Colors TV. The story which is set in rural Rajasthan revolved around the life of a child bride from childhood to womanhood.